How to Plan an Elopement Step by Step
What You Need to Know First
- Define your elopement vision with your partner before doing any planning.
- Know your budget and focus spending on what matters most.
- Choose a weekday date for better light, fewer crowds, and easier permits.
- Hire your photographer early—they’ll help guide the planning process.
- Check permit requirements for national and state parks. More about permits →
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Best Elopement Planning Steps
1. Imagine Your Elopement Day
Grab coffee or wine and list your top must-haves—like views, rituals, guests, or privacy. Combine your ideas to form a shared vision. Compare elopements vs. traditional weddings here.
2. Build a Realistic Budget
Plan for travel, attire, rings, photography, flowers, food, and any adventure activities. Focus on what’s most meaningful to you.
3. Choose Who’s Coming
Whether it’s just you two or a few loved ones, decide early. Keep it under 20 guests for intimacy and ease.
4. Select a Date & Season
Golden hour (sunrise or sunset) is ideal. Use tools like AllTrails or Google Earth to preview light and location.
5. Book an Elopement Photographer
Photographers like Mason Jesmer Photography double as planners—helping you scout spots, get permits, and build timelines.
6. Pick the Perfect Ceremony Location
From mountaintops to courthouses, choose what fits your vibe. Always have two backup spots just in case.
7. Lock in Other Vendors
- Officiant or legal alternative
- Florist (or DIY bouquet)
- Hair and makeup artist
- Private chef or local meal
- Videographer (optional)
8. Take Care of Legal Details
Check local marriage license requirements and photo permits. Apply well in advance.
9. Book Travel & Lodging
Think cabins, yurts, or cozy boutique hotels close to your ceremony site for stress-free access.
10. Finalize Your Timeline
Add buffer time between each part of the day. Work backward from your ceremony time to schedule everything else.
11. Add Adventure to the Day
Options include kayaking, sunrise hikes, horseback riding, glamping, or waterfall swims. Dress and pack accordingly.
12. Prep Details & Outfits
Bring vow books, rings, and keepsakes. Coordinate outfits and prep a flat-lay details box for your photographer.
13. Celebrate After
Plan a small dinner, brunch, or getaway. You can even send announcement cards or plan a larger party later.
When to Start Planning
- Book venue and photographer (6–12 months ahead).
- Secure permits and licenses (ASAP).
- Lock in lodging and travel (6 months out).
- Finalize details and vendors (2–3 months out).
Pro Tip: Always build 10–15 minute buffers into your timeline.
How Much Does It Cost to Elope?
- Photography: $800–$5,000+ depending on hours and location
- Travel & Lodging: $300–$2,000+
- Attire: $200–$1,500
- Officiant: $0–$600
- Flowers & Details: $100–$400
- Adventure Add-ons: Optional (varies)
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FAQs
Do we need a permit to elope in a national park?
Most parks require a simple permit. Check the NPS permit guide.
Can we include guests at our elopement?
Yes, though it’s best to keep it under 20 to preserve intimacy and simplify planning.
What if the weather changes?
Always have a backup location and flexible timeline. Embrace the adventure.
Final Thoughts
Planning your elopement should feel exciting, not stressful. With the right guide and a flexible mindset, your day can be beautiful, intimate, and true to who you are. Let’s talk about your elopement →
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